That last part obviously making any 'musical discernment' terrible ^_^ haha
So I've been listening to the most random stuff lately. And a LOT of old style country (L) actual love it so much lol
But yeah Britney Spears has been playing a fair bit tonight.
And my take on the matter, which I thought I'd post since it allegedly made Shazz almost spit out her coffee ;P -
sigh. my music taste threw up and ate it's spew and like, ate what it then shat out.
Well, I make me lol. ;P
Annnd just thought I'd put it out here.... I wrote a blog sometime back about love... inspired by a quote from "The Riders" by Tim Winton, interesting read, not very conclusive, but worth reading i'd say, heaps confusing and complex ehhh.
"Can someone love too much?
yeah I already posted a bulletin about this, but i want more replies so i'm making it longterm ;)
So anyway, I've got a few replies saying yes, and a few saying no.
But I just thought I'd mention something that I think a lot of people tend to forget,
love is not just the love that people mainly think of, where you want to get married and such
there are many kinds of love which are just as true and potent and real as that kind of love.
love between siblings, between parents and children, between friends, etc
the thing that makes you try to save someone's life when you have never even met them before, the caring you have for someone when you see that something is wrong however close or not you may be. i believe that is something to do with love, more perhaps compassion but that is something which comes from love.
there's so many different types and none can truly be classified.
but i think what the question is, is the pain of loving worth it?
This is a quote from Jamie of To Write Love On her Arms
"We are only asked to love, to offer hope to the many hopeless. We don't get to choose all the endings, but we are asked to play the rescuers. We won't solve all mysteries and our hearts will certainly break in such a vulnerable life, but it is the best way. We were made to be lovers bold in broken places, pouring ourselves out again and again until we're called home."
I think what it's saying is that loving people and caring about people, we are always going to end up hurt, but it is better to love and care, better to leave ourselves open in this way where we can be hurt, no matter how scary it is, than to close ourselves off from love because of fear, because we don't want the pain. But love is worth that all.
From the book I was reading that started this hah, it's a seven year old girl's thoughts - "She wondered if you could love someone too much. If you could it wasn't fair. People didn't have a chance. Love was all you had in the end. It was like sleep, like clean water. When you fell off the world there was still love because love made the world. That's what she believed. That's how it was.
I'm so awesome I quote myself =/
People's responses thus far -"No i dont think u can love anyone too much. and yeah there are many kinds of love and yeah everyone gets hurt in love at some point but i dont think u can stop loving ppl and though ppl might close them selves off i think we need to try not to tho i know i do at times also. idk confusing."
- "You can never love too much, especially when it is love as an action... I think you described it as compassion... where you can love someone without liking them, simply by showing them some kindness and taking the time to make them feel they are worth something... you can never love too much of that kind of love.
I think if you love someone so much (maybe more in the passion sense) that it is preventing you from loving others and making you lose focus of other important things... then it is loving them too much... although this probably isn't true love... if that makes any sense."
a point was rasied to me by bonnie with stalkers n them crazy obbsessied pplz...
they sometimes claim they killed them coz they thought they wer ment to be together n ther was true lov but they rejected them...
i would say thats to far...
so i now say u cant love to much unless u hav some sort of mental disorder...
sry to bring this to a bit of a downer =S"
- "first off goin to admit i didnt read your bullitin just went striaght to answering the question...
i dont think you can love someone to much,
but it can be unwanted love,
say to people truely love each other ther would probz e no limits to how much they love each other,
but if one person loves the other n the other doesnt but is goin out with them or somthin they would probz say they r being smothered or something...
so yeh depeneds n the circumstance for me and if they say ther being smothered they cant truely love that person"
- re: same person as above "dam neva thought of that family/friend sort of thing...
but still my answer doesnt change just that i add ther is no such thing as showing to much love to ur friends/family coz they are wat is close to you, no matter wat you do, no matter watthey do, your there for each other, though the good bad and indefferent times ther company is what keeps you sure life is worth living and the next day is always a new beginning =D"
- "I rekon you can love somebody too much, by smothering them and such."
- "yes. i beleive you can love someone too much. i have to different ways that it can be
1: if you love someone SO much, eventually if just becomes lust, and that the love is eventually gone, that the point of loving someone so much, comes to a state where there is no longer a love connection, just a lust filled want to please your own emotions.
2: when you love someone so much, that all you get it pain. that the only reason you seem to love someone is to just end up getting hurt all the time. you can love someone too much, so much, that all the time you just feel angry and hurt and constantly in pain that you cant just let go, that you are so deeply in love, that all you get in return is the pain"
- same person as above "..i think true/real love, is a small thing, if it got bigger and to a stage of too much love then i personally dont think it would be true or real anymore"
so most of the replies are from you who read my blog here anyway... thoughts?